Friday, 23 July 2010

It's all about trust...

Does the picture above remind you of anything? 
Well, it reminds me of how trusting I was. I trusted my parents to throw me up in the air and not drop me. This is a familiar picture for most of us.
 But what happened since then? Would I trust anyone now, not to "drop" me? I am afraid not.
When we are growing up we look up to our parents and feel secure and confident that they will always tell us the truth, protect us and shelter us. We Trust Them.
 When my children were growing up, I trusted them and I still do, to tell me the truth of where they are and who with, I never searched through their personal possessions, I never lied and back bitten and was never  a hypocrite by pretending to be someone I never was  and Alhamdulillah I have been rewarded with children who trust me enough to tell me the truth. ( sometimes more than I need to always tell them that I appreciate them telling me the truth. This strengthens the bond of trust we have. 
However   ..........................
In the outside world ,we encounter a different scenario.People we meet in our daily lives, have no hesitation in betraying our trust. I often marvel at how far people go..., " reasons" unknown and  possibly dark.
In Islam we read the Hadith of The prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) which clearly warns us:

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "The signs of a hypocrite are three: 1. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie. 2. Whenever he promises, he always breaks it (his promise ). 3. If you trust him, he proves to be dishonest. (If you keep something as a trust with him, he will not return it.)"  Bukhari (Book 2, Hadith 32).

Here are some tips for building trust:

  • Never tell a lie, always tell the truth. And, say it kindly and tactfully.
  • Be real; do not act like somebody you are not.
  • Do not gossip about other people's life. The one you are talking to may think you are gossiping her at her back. The worst scene is - she even pass what you said to other people too.
  • Never betray a confidence. Do not tell the secrets confided to you.
  • Keep all the promises you made. If you cannot keep a promise, better not to promise at all.
  • When you borrow something, always return it as soon as possible on time.
Trust yourself First. Then Trust others. Always search for the good in others.Lead by example .

D O N' T   F O R G E T to also put all your trust in Allah, The Most High.

"O Allah, our Lord! All the praises are for You; You are the Keeper (Establisher or the One Who looks after) of the Heavens and the Earth. All the Praises are for You; You are the Light of the Heavens and the Earth and whatever is therein. You are the Truth, and Your saying is the Truth, and Your promise is the Truth, and the meeting with You is the Truth, and Paradise is the Truth, and the (Hell) Fire is the Truth. O Allah! I surrender myself to You, and believe in You, and I put my trust in You (solely depend upon). And to You I complain of my opponents and with Your Evidence I argue. So please forgive the sins which I have done in the past or I will do in the future, and also those (sins) which I did in secret or in public, and that which You know better than I. None has the right to be worshipped but You."
 Bukhari  (Book 93, Hadith 534)


NeverEver said...

jazakillah khair, thank you for the reminders sister :-)

Amira said...

Jazakillah khair,Mashallah a great reminder.

Rukhpar Mor said...

JazakAllah Khayr, I like this=)

Saba said...

Great post! I know growing up in this society many children have a hard time opening up to their parents. Masha'Allah, I am happy to hear your children can open up to you.

I will never forget when I learned about the hadith that says after children reach the age of fifteen or so, they are to be your friend! Subhanallah. It truly is beautiful to reflect on because as we know from experience all you want at that age is a friend.

Xenia said...

Mashallah! Jazakallah for all your lovely comments. Trust is such a treasure to have, to hold and to cherish. We need to educate our children at home by being an example to them, warn them that not everybody is to be trusted and instil in them values. At the same time some Muslims have also to be reminded of " When they give their word, they should keep it" and be trustworthy in all their dealings. This post was two-fold. Children and Muslims. 2 topics in 1 Mashallah !!!