It's all about trust...

Does the picture above remind you of anything? 

Well, it reminds me of how trusting I was. I trusted my parents to throw me up in the air and not drop me. This is a familiar picture for most of us.

 But what happened since then? Would I trust anyone now, not to "drop" me? I am afraid not.

When we are growing up we look up to our parents and feel secure and confident that they will always tell us the truth, protect us and shelter us. We Trust Them.

 When my children were growing up, I trusted them and I still do, to tell me the truth of where they are and who with, I never searched through their personal possessions, I never lied and back bitten and was never  a hypocrite by pretending to be someone I never was  and Alhamdulillah I have been rewarded with children who trust me enough to tell me the truth. ( sometimes more than I need to know...lol).I always tell them that I appreciate them telling me the truth. This strengthens the bond of trust we have. 

However   ..........................

In the outside world ,we encounter a different scenario.People we meet in our daily lives, have no hesitation in betraying our trust. I often marvel at how far people go..., " reasons" unknown and  possibly dark.

In Islam we read the Hadith of The prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) which clearly warns us:

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "The signs of a hypocrite are three: 1. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie. 2. Whenever he promises, he always breaks it (his promise ). 3. If you trust him, he proves to be dishonest. (If you keep something as a trust with him, he will not return it.)"  Bukhari (Book 2, Hadith 32).

Here are some tips for building trust:

  

• Never tell a lie, always tell the truth. And, say it kindly and tactfully.
• Be real; do not act like somebody you are not.
• Do not gossip about other people's life. The one you are talking to may think you are gossiping her at her back. The worst scene is - she even pass what you said to other people too.
• Never betray a confidence. Do not tell the secrets confided to you.
• Keep all the promises you made. If you cannot keep a promise, better not to promise at all.
• When you borrow something, always return it as soon as possible on time.

Trust yourself First. Then Trust others. Always search for the good in others.Lead by example .

D O N' T   F O R G E T to also put all your trust in Allah, The Most High.

"O Allah, our Lord! All the praises are for You; You are the Keeper (Establisher or the One Who looks after) of the Heavens and the Earth. All the Praises are for You; You are the Light of the Heavens and the Earth and whatever is therein. You are the Truth, and Your saying is the Truth, and Your promise is the Truth, and the meeting with You is the Truth, and Paradise is the Truth, and the (Hell) Fire is the Truth. O Allah! I surrender myself to You, and believe in You, and I put my trust in You (solely depend upon). And to You I complain of my opponents and with Your Evidence I argue. So please forgive the sins which I have done in the past or I will do in the future, and also those (sins) which I did in secret or in public, and that which You know better than I. None has the right to be worshipped but You."

 Bukhari  (Book 93, Hadith 534)

Put your trust in Allah! Alhamdulillah!

I had a long talk with a friend today.

While she was getting ready to depart on a four day holiday break, had a fall and broke her wrist. After  24 hours in pain and an operation , her right hand is in plaster  and she will be unable to use it for the next six weeks.

“Ιnaa lillaahe wa innaa ilayhe raji’oon”

I try to imagine what this is going going to be like  for her. Incapacitated and unable to carry out  everyday activities must be a very stressful situation to be in.

Allah swt says in the Holy Qur’an:

For him (each person), there are angels in succession, before and behind him. They guard him by the Command of Allah… (Ar Ra’d: ayah 11)

No calamity befalls, but by the Leave i.e. Decision and Qadar (Divine Preordainments) of Allah, and whosoever believes in Allah, He guides his heart to true Faith with certainty, i.e. what has befallen him was already written for him by Allah from the Qadar (Divine Preordainments). And Allah is the All Knower of everything. (At Taghabun: ayah 11)

So No Holiday and 6 weeks in plaster. But the word  ”if” is not option for her …Alhamdulillah

“Seek carefully what benefits you. Pray for Allah’s help and do not deviate from your path. If adversity strikes, do not lament: “Oh if I had done so and so, such and such would not have happened”; but rather, say: “Allah has decreed, and what He has decreed has come to be.”… “If”, opens the door to Shaytaan.” Muhammad – In the Sahih: Narrated by Abu Hurayrah.

Allah swt says in the Holy Qur’an

But He (SWT) also says:

So when calamity strikes we can choose to be miserable and angry or accepting, patient  and seeing the  calamity as a Mercy from Allah as He wants to give us a way for  an expiation of sins and raise our status in the Hereafter. Ameen.

I thought I will write this as a reminder for all of us to be grateful to Allah ( swt ) for all His blessings.

And in difficulties have faith that Allah swt will make a way out for us. Alhamdulillah.

Imagine what it feels like to have the permanent loss of a limb through illness or wars?

Thank you for reading

Xenia